So long as I can remember, emotions have been categoritzed as good or bad; POSITIVE emotions, or NEGATIVE emotions. Ones we want and crave and others we try to push away. This lines up well with the underlying problem with the human condition: Our tendency to judge things constantly and to often act irrationally; to obsess about what we crave and shrink from what we dislike puts us into an ongoing roller coaster of life's experiences. It also wastes a huge amount of our preci

Anger Is not good or bad. It simply is. Our culture often refers to anger as a “negative” emotion, implying that there are positive and negative emotions, desirable and undesirable feelings. That is not to say that some feelings FEEL better than others, and anger much of the time feels tight, tense and frightened but still, it’s part of our human experience. Feelings and thoughts are always coming and going- some invited into our minds and bodies, and some which barge in to o

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